How To Deal With Idiots // Thoughts

Let us be honest here... There are idiots everywhere. In school, on the job, on the train, behind a computer screen or maybe even in the family. They are freaking everywhere and you can't always escape them. You must know how to deal with the idiots in your life and get rid of them.... Not get rid of them in the way you are thinking, I mean, not making them affect your life.


Disclaimer: If we are talking about severe physical or verbally bullying or cyber bullying, you should talk to someone about it and seek help. This post is not based on any professional knowledge, but only on personal experiences with so-called idiots.

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1) Stay Calm & Make Distance
The person might know how to push your buttons, but you need to show him/her that it doesn't affect you. I know it does, but this is where you need to show yourself how strong you really are. She/he is not allowed to control your life or the way you are thinking.

The person may just need someone to let all his/her crap out on. I know is is not your job, but you should feel bad for them. I really feel bad for the people who tear people down, so they stand out to be better. Try to think about it for a second. Those people are tragic. Deeply tragic. You are stronger than that! I know you are!

"If you don't like where you are, move. You are not a tree."

2) Accept The Idiot
Maybe your boss is a jerk, but you have to deal with her/him everyday. Try - and I know this is tough - to accept your boss or who it might be. We are all different, and grew up with different families, friends and norms. We all tackle the world differently. Try also to be reasonable. People tend to just stamp people as 'idiots' before they even know the person. He/she probably have his/her reasons to act the way they do. Just because someone really offended you once, doesn't mean he/she is a bad person. 

3) Get Stronger
I kind of mentioned a bit about it in my first tip, but DO NOT LET THEM DEFINE WHO YOU ARE! You are way stronger than that. Maybe you don't think you have a lot of friends. Maybe you don't feel like you have anyone, but you are not alone. I know it feels that way. I have been there. I think we have all been there. I promise you, you are not alone.

Maybe you have a goal in life. Something you want to accomplish. Something that will make you happy. It could be a career goal, a trip to a foreign country, an experience or just something simple as learning how to make lasagne, or maybe just put soap in a public fountain! Don't let people get in your way of your dreams. Don't be afraid of people. They are just a group individual shaped humans. No need to be afraid of them.

Life is not supposed to be easy. Let the idiots make you stronger. Learn from them. Hopefully you will learn how not to treat other people, and concentrate about your own life and the people who actually matter.

4) Actually Dealing with The Idiot
What about actually talking to the person? You might be thinking, that you would never in your wildest imagination talk to her/him, but sometimes it might be a great help. Try to be less aggressive minded when you talk to the person.  It is exhausting to walk around holding grudges or be angry at the world every day. Try to sort things out, even if you don't succeed at least you tried. Let it go. We can't live when we are surrounded by bad energy.

5) Maybe It's You
I know this is not what you want to hear, and I am sorry to break this to you, but maybe it is you. Have you ever thought about your own reaction, attitude or body language? Maybe you are the one, who pushes the other person's buttons; the one that acts irrationally. Maybe you yawn every time the other person talks. Maybe you interrupt whenever she/he tries to speak. Think about it. 

I am not trying to say that the whole situation is all your fault. You both take part of this, and you might not intend to spread bad vibes or make that person dislike you. Sometimes it is all misunderstandings or just bad habits.  Try to ask people around you, if you say or act a certain way that can be misunderstood. I know hearing the truth can be really uncomfortable and even scary, but it can also help you. 

You shouldn't change who you are, but sometimes you also need to adjust to different people. For example you act differently when you are with your grandparents and when you are with your friends. Maybe you and your best friend always sit with your phone while the other person is talking, or call each other names - Some people who don't know you or your friend might think you are just rude. We are all so different.

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I know calling people for idiots doesn't solve anything. Keep in mind that we are all humans. We are not bad persons, sometimes we just do bad things. Please accept people to be who they are and respect differences, so none of us have to walk around and fear being silly, proud or happy. That is not a world we want to live in. Let's never be ashamed of being who we are. Smile. Be happy. Be strong. How do you deal with people you don't get along with?

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Love you all and have a great super amazing day! xx

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